" eyes without a face..."

"It's not even enough to write what you know. You have to know interesting things. You have to put yourself into a world where you have experiences"- John Hodgman

                                                                                                                                                                            A   few years ago an unusual trend called planking was all the rage being captured on cell phone cameras and gaining notoriety in YouTube video clips.  Although planking has been around since 1994 the general public was now being made aware of its dangers due to a few unexpected and tragic accidents.

     Acton Beale, a 20-year-old man, plunged to his death after reportedly "planking" on a seventh-   floor balcony in Brisbane, Australia. Planking is also called the "The Lying Down Game"  which consists of lying face down in an obscure location with both hands touching the sides of the body. The term planking refers to mimicking a wooden plank. Yes, planking sounds a bit odd but not nearly as unbelievably strange as the new but probably now passe fad among Japanese pre-teens called "worming"

 or eyeball- licking.

     Apparently, this bizarre fetish is a display of affection equivalent to getting to second base with your crush. The Japanese media have reported the trend started a little over a year ago from a music video by the Japanese band Born, in which the lead singer gets his eyeball licked by a seductive woman. It's a damn good thing boy toys One Direction didn't initiate an armpit-licking craze featuring Harry Styles. Even a nostril lap up would be preferable and genuinely more healthy. It seems obvious that affectionately licking your loves eyeball might not be among the best ways to show you care, doctors have concluded the practice can spread viral conjunctivitis or "Pink Eye,"  Conjunctivitis is an itchy and highly contagious eye ailment feared by grade-school teachers and especially parents. It took awhile for adults and authority figures to catch up with the trend. "Honey, why is our son wearing an eye patch to school?"  By the time parents, adults and the media figure out what's "cool" the craze is cold. But that is the way of the world.

      Luckily, here in the States the trend hasn't appeared to have caught on. Our enterprising American youth spend so much time playing with their smart phones they have developed a phenomena  known as "sleep-texting" which all things considered is better than "sexting" or using snapchat.  Snapchat is a mobile photo-sharing app with one distinct feature compared to other ways people might share photos on their cellphones. Snapchat photos, once viewed, disappear from view, after a pre-set length of time. However,  as we all know phone or computer data never really disappears completely. So even photo's of freakish eyeball-licking can be recovered. Bad news for impulsive teenagers but great news for protective parents.

"don't make me turn this car around..."

“I never got along with my dad. Kids used to come up to me and say, “My dad can beat up your dad.” I’d say, “Yeah? When?” ~ Bill Hicks

Happy Father's Day! Here is a very entertaining video compiled from actual photo's shared by families for the website Awkward Family Photo's.com. Have a good laugh and enjoy your time together. It goes by in the blink of an eye.

"Drew, Drew Bo Boo, Banana Fanana Fo Foo..Fighter..."

" Happy birthday to Drew... you live in a zoo.."

Drew,
 Happy Birthday, my handsome sweet nephew. This is your monkey card (blog). The monkeys name is Uncle. The monkey, Uncle bought you a hat for your birthday. He got it on sale at Target. It was marked down to 99 cents. Uncle had saved part of the paycheck he earned playing cymbals while accompanying a singing street vendor. Uncle complains day and night, "Oh, my arms hurt." But really what are his alternative employment options? Now with the internets people aren't sending as many monkey cards by mail. They don't need monkey models any more. Everything is monkey air brushed and Photo shopped.  Anyway. Uncle loves your hat so much he won't give it back to me. We even took it to a mall kiosk and had it Bedazzled with" Drew Myshirtfits"   He has been asked politely over and over but he refuses to take it off. I had to chase him through a Kirklands, a Dollar Tree, Old Navy and finally Hot Topic before he set off an alarm running out an emergency exit. Imagine my embarrassment, being seen in a Hot Topic. After chasing him around and around in the parking lot for an hour there was no possible way to grab the hat, package, address it and ship UPS before the close of business so it would arrive on time for your 22nd birthday. Uncle said he is deeply regretful and wants to cheer you up by telling you a few of his favorite jokes.
 So there is a man in a movie theater who notices what looks like a monkey sitting next to him.
"Are you a monkey?" asked the man, surprised.
"Yes."
"What are you doing at the movies?"
The monkey replied, "Well, I liked the book."
Okay, so you don't seem satisfied? You act like a monkey tells you jokes every day. You, Millennial's and your laissez faire attitudes.  I suppose if he had texted you a joke you would be more impressed. Okay, how about this one?

    A policeman in the big city stops a man in a car with a monkey in the front seat.
"What are you doing with that monkey?" He exclaimed, "You should take it to the zoo."
The following week, the same policeman sees the same man with the monkey again in the front seat, with both of them wearing sunglasses. The policeman pulls him over.
"I thought you were going to take that monkey to the zoo!"
The man replied, "I did. We had such a good time we are going to the beach this weekend!"

 So I hope this blog will suffice for now. I miss seeing your adorable face and hope you have a wonderful celebration. Give your Mom, Dad and Bri a hug from me. It really was a beautiful hat.  Happy Birthday!! Love you. Auntie, Lisa

"Ready, steady, go..."

"Sergeant Hulka: Soldier, I've noticed that you're always last.
John Winger: I'm pacing myself, Sergeant." -Stripes

      People with a fierce competitive drive appear to have an extra edge in life. They seem to possess that elusive inner spark or divine force propelling them to win.  It's an admirable trait I lack. My non competitive spirit is made even more apparent as I watch highly motivated runners sprint right past me during a race.
      When I worked in customer service, management teams tried to create competition between consultants with smack talk. "Hey, Lisa. Rey said he helps more customers in thirty minutes than you can in eight hours. More calls, more customers, more money." "Oh, that's awesome. Tell him I  said congratulations on his success and don't forget, Friday is Hawaiian Shirt Day" This slightly sarcastic compliment would inevitably frustrate managers who were trying to analyze  your psychological weaknesses. They wanted to discover your motivations so they could break you down, remold your psyche, transform you into the ambitious goal oriented associate that made them appear more successful. Being non competitive can be frustrating  for others. "Increase sales or you may be looking for a new job" is a phrase that has "inspired" few.  When we evaluate our own motives and look deep inside we know what allows us to be successful. The  majority are motivated by money, others fame, power or competition. This is the fuel which drives business and industry across the globe, the movers and the shakers. We are all driven to pursue our passions. We are driven to pursue our own passions.
      My motivation for participating in this mornings  5k race was to pet dogs. Honestly, it was to raise money for spaying and neutering programs, a park and it featured a canine expo. My registration number should have inspired me to "go fast" since it was "88" or Dale Earnhardt Juniors National Guard Chevrolet race car number. But the Run, Walk and Wag 5k was over flowing with many pleasurable sensory distractions.  Besides creating awareness for spaying and neutering the race also raised funds for a beautiful park with a gorgeous cross country trail.  However, after several days of rain in our area the course was rather slick and muddy. Hiking up my dirt splattered running sweats I splashed in pools of murky rain water. As a kid that is a major treat but somehow loses its appeal as an adult with a time limit. At one point I had to laugh at myself for tip toeing through the treacherous terrain like a spoiled prancing princess. Where was my chivalrous prince charming to lay down his royal cloak so a fair maiden could cross the puddle? All the focused runners were trampling unfazed through the cool morning air of forest foliage. The pack began to stride ahead of me as I struggled not to lose balance or fall in the mud. Soon all the runners were lost in the distance out of sight.
     Alone with my ipod charged I was listening to Foster the People's "Call It What You Want" happily half jogging, half dancing along a slick slippery trail. Was that a snake? Are there bears in this area? What if someone jumps out at me from behind a tree like a Ninja? Where is the water stand? Surely, it's been more than four miles by now. Maybe I should buy a watch. What a fabulous view and no camera!. What if a tick attaches to my ankle and I get Lyme disease? Look at that gorgeous Golden Retriever, how can I not stop and pet him? Where is the finish line? Oh look, a Labrador! Let me pet you too. Maybe I should stop at the restroom. Hello, may I pet your dog? Hey, that guy is hot! Finish line.
 This was not my best race record time. It was a really fun, enjoyable way to spend little over an hour and raise money and awareness for a great cause I believe in. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves our journey is always more important than our destination. 


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..."great dog or THE greatest dog ?..."

"All dogs are Zen Masters. They teach us awareness. They teach us the only moment is now."

        Life Lessons from My Little Buddha was a tribute article I wrote to my dog Maddie (or unofficially Maddie Mooshie Diamond Lotus Buddha). Maddie passed away from an inherited blood disease one year ago this month. She was just shy of her twelfth birthday. Although I love dogs and  consider my self an animal advocate , I have yet to completely mourn the loss of my "Little Buddha". When the time is right I will  be able to adopt another dog. There is an affinity I have with the cocker spaniel breed. In my experience most cockers are happy, goofy, soft, snuggly and sweet little cuddle bunnies. Cockers always want to be by your side. They shadow you from room to room, swirling at your feet like the great train of a wedding dress. A spaniels gentle expression and large soulful eyes melt my heart. I love all dogs and even have a habit of saying it aloud. My sister-in-law's pup, Parker  is told daily and my sister Laurie's dog, Dash  gets a "hello" over the phone. An " I love you, Dog" goes out to strangers pets being walked down the street or those seen playfully romping in the park. Yes, I adore children and love a multitude of human beings(faults and all) but there is something about dogs that bring out all the"feels" in me. 

 Below is a link to the complete tribute article.

Be in the Moment

http://lkmore01.hubpages.com/hub/What-My-Little-Buddha-Taught-Me

"Chuck E. Cheese for my birthday, Chuck E., Chuck E. Cheese for my birthday..."

“Last week the candle factory burned down. Everyone just stood around and sang Happy Birthday.”- Steven Wright

 

   
          According to a public record births database there tends to be more births in the months of September and October. There may be a correlation between holiday seasons nine months before. Couples are snuggling up and getting busy on the longest nights of the year in the Northern Hemisphere nine months prior. A Harvard University research study showed September 16 to be the most common birthday at one point in the United States. December 25 is the least common birthday. Now October 5 and 6 are the most frequently occurring birthdays. However, in my family June is the most popular birthday month. My sister, brother, his wife and my nephew will celebrate birthdays in the month of June.
     A symbol that is closely tied to a birthday celebration is the custom of putting candles on your birthday cake. How did this tradition start? The Greek people who took their cakes to Artemis placed candles on the cake because it made the cake look as if it was glowing like the moon. "Hey, if the moon was made out of birthday cake would you eat it? "The German people were known as excellent candle makers and started to make small candles for their birthday cakes. Some people say that the candles were put on cakes for religious reasons. In some countries of the world they place a big candle in the center of the cake to symbolize the "light of life". Others believed that the smoke from fires would take their wishes up to heaven. Today many people make silent wishes as they blow out their candles. They believe that blowing out all the candles in one breath will bring good luck. Our family has an uncommon tradition of finding unique birthday cards featuring monkeys. We are not sure how this started but believe it originated with my brother, Steve. The tradition of sending birthday cards began in England over one hundred years ago but I doubt they featured lovable chimpanzees' in pink fairy godmother tutu's waving a magic wand to grant your birthday wish. With any "luck" people will forget it's your birthday as you get older or at best remember Robert Frost's sage advice, “A diplomat is a man who always remembers a woman's birthday but never remembers her age.”   Then there are those who believe in joyously celebrating each year on earth. How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were? It's not age or maturity we are celebrating but a love of life and an appreciation of acquired wisdom.
Happy Birthday,to my sis.. Love you!

 

"happiness is a warm puppy..."

“Dogs are our link to paradise. They don't know evil or jealousy or discontent. To sit with a dog on a hillside on a glorious afternoon is to be back in Eden, where doing nothing was not boring--it was peace.”
― Milan Kundera

      The more I thought about it the more I realized the following statement rings true, if you don't like dogs I won't trust you. Period. You may be a fantastic person worthy of like status but I won't LOVE you or fall in love with you. Sorry. There are some relationship deal breakers you don't compromise. Luckily, there are millions of animal lovers in this world and even thousands more closer to home. On Saturday, June 8th 
 you can join me, a few of my family members and many beloved animal enthusiasts to benefit the Northern Virginia Spay Neuter Clinic and The Philip Bolen Memorial Park for the 2nd annual Run, Walk & Wag 5k run and pet expo. You can run the 5k on the USATF Certified cross country course or walk in the dog and family friendly 1 Mile Fun Run. You and your canine companion can even participate in one of the dog contests. The 5k will be a professionally timed race with awards for winners. Most importantly your registration fee and participation is applied to much needed spaying and neutering programs in Northern Virginia.
Check out the website link below for more event information:
http://northernvirginiaspayneuterclinic.org/EVENTS.html


  Here are a few more educational facts about spaying and neutering.

 Spaying and neutering allows us to help fight pet overpopulation.

Every single year, millions and millions of innocent cats and dogs of all ages and breeds are euthanized or suffer tremendously as strays. The high number is the direct result of unplanned litters that could have been prevented by spaying or neutering. If you are a pet owner there is no excuse not to get your dog or cat spayed or neutered. Be responsible.

 Don't be selfish and uncaring. Your pet doesn't need to have a litter of puppies or kittens for your children to learn about the "miracle of birth."

Allowing your pets to produce offspring when you have absolutely no intention of caring or keeping them is inexcusable, irresponsible and just plain selfish on the part of human beings.  Do you want to teach your children a good lesson about being a responsible  parent? Don't allow millions of  unwanted animals to end up in shelters or continue to be euthanized There are hundreds of books and videos available to teach your children about birth in a more reasonable way.

Spaying and neutering  is good for an entire community.

Stray animals pose a real problem in many parts of the US. Stray dogs can prey on wildlife, cause car accidents, and frighten or attack children and adults. Spaying and neutering is the most powerful way to reduce the number of animals roaming the streets.

 Think of your pets life and health.

Spaying helps prevent uterine infections and breast cancer, which is fatal in about 50 percent of dogs and 90 percent of cats. Spaying your female pet before her first heat offers the best protection from these diseases. Besides preventing unwanted litters, neutering your male dog or cat prevents testicular cancer, if done before six months of age. If you really loved your pet you would do what's best for their health and for the continuation of their long happy life with you! If you are not concerned with the well being and happiness of your dog or cat then you must seriously consider why you own  a pet at all. For even more great information about spaying and neutering programs in your area visit the ASPCA website. http://www.aspca.org/

"the memory shall be ours..."

“A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.”-Joseph Campbell

      It is easy for many civilians to forget that American troops are still deployed overseas in  places like Afghanistan for up to twelve to eighteen months at a time. They leave behind  friends, families and loved ones while putting their lives at risk to continue to protect our freedom.

Memorial Day was first enacted in memory of the soldiers who fought in the American Civil War but later, Memorial Day was expanded to commemorate the soldiers who fought in all American wars, including the World Wars.

 Many civilians are also unaware that active soldiers, veterans and their families are in need of long term additional support. This is where many non-profit organizations pick up where sadly our government has left off. These reputable hard working non-profit organizations assist all of us in giving back to our troops and their families who have sacrificed so much.

 Monday, May 27th, my sister-in-law and I, as well as thousands of grateful supporters will be participating in the Memorial Day "Ringing in Hope  Salute to Our Troops"  5k and 10k run/walk. Below is a list of the organizations the run will benefit.

Fisher House provides a "home away from home" for military families to be close to a loved one during hospitalization for an illness, disease or injury.

Operation Gratitude seeks to lift morale in the Military Community by sending care packages addressed to individual Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen and Marines deployed overseas, to their children left behind, and to Veterans, First Responders, Wounded Warriors and their Care Givers. Operation Gratitude Care Packages contain food, hygiene products, entertainment items and personal letters of appreciation, all wrapped with good wishes of love and support.

Wounded Warrior Project provides programs and services to severely injured service members during the time between active duty and transition to civilian life.

This run/walk and other 5K-10K runs in the next few months will also help me prepare for the 26K Marine Corps  Marathon in October as a proud member of Team Mission Continues.

Most people spend precious time with loved ones on Memorial Day traveling, cooking or enjoying a day off from work but we must also take time to reflect on what Memorial Day truly means.  Remember those who gave their lives in service for a cause much larger than themselves.

" How do you choose not to feel ?......"

  " Space: the final frontier. These are the voyages of the starship Enterprise. Her five-year mission: to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life forms and new civilizations; to boldly go where no one has gone before."- James T. Kirk

      My review of the movie  StarTrek  Into Darkness  directed by J.J Abram's is much kinder and gentler than some of the movie forum contributors. Neither naturally fault finding or negative, I found the movie to be action packed and completely entertaining. One of the biggest controversies stemming from the film is what one reviewer called a "gratuitously unnecessary" scene of actress, Alice Eve in her underwear. Bravo, pseudo film critics and die hard Trekkies, you have managed to sell even more tickets to a movie you supposedly find sexist. Of course most nerds have never seen a woman in her skivvies and like Mr. Spock were probably unsure of how to emotionally react. Controversy sells. Hot men and women sell tickets. May I remind you that most ladies in the theater and quite a few men were enjoying the gorgeous ice blue eyes of Chris Pine and the dashing good looks and sexy British accent of the villainous Benjamin Cumberbatch.. It's  Hollywood. Hello? Flawless, beautiful actors in a fantasy world.
   What movie viewers need to commit to memory from Into Darkness is the poignant question Captain James T. Kirk asks Spock during a particularly moving scene." How do you stop yourself from feeling?" When your job or duty demands you to be stoic in order to save your life or the lives of others, how do you turn off emotions? How do you control the panic, rage, tears, fear, anger? How do you choose not to feel? What are the long term consequences of that sacrifice?  Another series of potent questions the antagonist  Khan poses to Mr. Spock is revealed in the following dialogue:

"The mind of the Enterprise. The fearless genius who ensures a calm force of intelligence guides their every mission. But look deeper and you will see an outsider who does not belong, a man of two worlds. This tears him apart, the constant battle between what he thinks and what he feels. What does he do? Does he follow his head, embracing logic and the path of reason? Or does he follow his heart, knowing the emotions he cannot control may destroy him? "

     There are some occupations where emotional control is imperative and not all of us can or will be in a position of  leadership, be a brave soldier, policeman, medic, firefighter or most recently act as  heroically as teachers in Moore, Oklahoma during a F-5 tornado. Thankfully, we do inhabit the same planet with many of these selfless souls who help protect our lives every single day. Some how these men and women are able to control their emotions and feelings when for many of us, our emotions are always right on the surface of our being. They are able to turn pain into strength and fear into courage.


Happy Birthday to my sister, Laurie. Love you!

"So whatcha, whatcha, whatcha want?...."

“While money can't buy happiness, it certainly lets you choose your own form of misery.”
― Groucho Marx       
                               
      The now classic comedy, Office Space features many memorable scenes and quotes including this philosophical question pondered by a disenchanted circle of friends and colleagues.

  Peter: Our high school guidance counselor used to ask us what you would do if you had a million dollars, didn't have to work, and, invariably, whatever you'd say, that was supposed to be your career. So if you wanted to fix old cars, then you're supposed to be an auto mechanic.
  Samir: So what did you say?
Peter: I never had an answer. I guess that's why I'm working at Initech.
Michael: No. You're working at Initech 'cause that question is bullshit to begin with. If everyone listened to her, there'd be no janitors because no one cleans shit up if they had a million dollars.

  Now what would you do with 600 million dollars? Like most people I know I bought not one but two Powerball tickets for last evenings drawing. My brothers and sisters, friends and co-workers all had visions of sensuous Hawaiian vacations, early retirement, purchasing large quantities of real estate or buying the Roush Fenway Racing Team dancing in our heads. Unfortunately, there was only one winner whose golden ticket was purchased in Florida. Damn it, it wasn't my brother, Steve either. We gamble at casino's, the horse track, bet on sports teams, buy lottery and Powerball tickets to fuel the fantasy that all life's problems would be solved if we had more money. Lovely fantasy. Here are a few more dream selections created by normal every day losers who recently had their hopes shattered too.

" I would buy every Game Stop in the United States"  (Sounds like my nephew.)

 "Here's what you should do if you won the 600 million dollars from the lottery. First, create a blind trust so that your identity can remain anonymous. Hire a team to help you to manage it. Pay off all your  debts. Give some money to children for college. Buy a nice home on the beach and retire. Remember to be smart in how you spend your money because you do not want to go bankrupt like the other lottery winners."   (Clearly, this person works for some practical financial services company and does not know how to dream properly. Where is the mention of owning your own chocolate factory or NFL franchise?)

"Build some technologically forward earth ships in Detroit, Michigan." (that's more like it)

If I hit the lottery I'd probably take a trip around the world, preferably to places where the locals aren't shooting at each other (or at Americans) all the time. "

"I would take $100,000 of it and go crazy spending it on everything from charity to exotic trips around the world. Then I would invest the rest of it and collect a check for $5000 every month. That might not be enough to live on but I suppose I could get a job and just be as cocky as I can be without the fear of getting fired.

Speaking of which- I think I would also find a fun job and work it for free just so I could get the opportunity to do it... like drawing the X and O patterns on the telestrater during live football games on TV."             Now that is a cleverly designed plan.

"come with me and you'll be in a world of pure imagination.."

“I think all toys should be invisible. Not only would they improve children’s imaginations, but they’d also be really affordable. In fact, every toy would be free.”
― Jarod Kintz, $3.33


      My sister and I were texting the other night when she mentioned Fisher- Price Little People. As a child Little People were the best entertainment in the universe. Obviously, they were fabulous toys but they were powered by pure imagination to make all the possibilities come to life. Recently, I discovered the Little People Castle on eBay ( http://www.ebay.com/sch/sis.html?_kw=VINTAGE+FISHER+PRICE+PLAY+FAMILY+CASTLE+LITTLE+PEOPLE) being sold for over two hundred fifty dollars. Of all the Little People sets , the castle was my favorite.  The castle set came complete with knight in shining armor, king, queen, prince, princess, horse and carriage, carriage driver who I named "Pierre" and a winged dragon that was lost in the yard the first week. It was an unforgettable gift when I was four and one of the most amazing presents my parents ever bought me. Countless hours were spent inventing stories and adventurous escapades alone or with my sisters. The first Little People set I received was the super cool airport with a giant plane that seated six Little People passengers. It was so neat even my Dad, the Cessna pilot and Air Force veteran wanted to play with it too. I guess all parents buy their children toys they want to play with. One year I received the school which had a real chalkboard and magnetic letters you could stick on your refrigerator. My sister Laurie,  who is now a  teacher may have been influenced by it's uniqueness. This was followed by the bustling Little People Village with race cars, a fire station, police station and barbershop. My niece had the Little People House and farm. Sometimes my Mom and sisters would set up a miniature city for me using our entire living room space.  Inside, outside, in the car, the store, the bathtub, show'n'tell at school, wherever I went, Little People came with me. Everyone has a favorite toy from their childhood whether is was Barbie dolls, My Little Pony (right, Steve?)Lego's, Tonka Trucks or Matchbox cars. And now if I wanted to spend two hundred dollars I could play with the castle again but I'm just going to hold on to my own precious memories and fondly reminisce for awhile. Below is a link to a Buzzfeed article featuring photo's of  Fisher- Price Little People. If you loved them as much as I did, enjoy a blast from the past!!http://www.buzzfeed.com/briangalindo/22-awesome-fisher-price-little-people-playsets-you-wish-you

"you are what you tweet..."

 “All one needs is a computer, a network connection, and a bright spark of initiative and creativity to join the economy.” -Don Tapscott

    Do you have a LinkedIn profile? Do you have over twenty-five thousand connections worldwide?  Does your LinkedIn page feature a photo of  you exposing your half- naked body in an exotic locale?  Are you listed as the CEO of your own independent "match making" enterprise?   Here's the story buzzing in social media circles this evening.
The professional networking site recently updated their user service agreement to clarify "unlawful" advertising due to the fact that LinkedIn operates in countries where prostitution is perfectly legal. So even though you may be extraordinary at promoting your self-image, lying about your Masters degree in "public escort relations" from Art Vandelay University may warrant further scrunity. Prostitution is strictly prohibited. However, you are still permitted to whore your talents and skills in a million imaginable ways as a job candidate or employer. Carry on then.

"Wishing you were here..."

“But there's a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But behind all your stories is always your mother's story, because hers is where yours begin.”
― Mitch Albom, For One More Day





    
 Behind all stories is your mothers story. My mother was only seventeen when she married. She gave birth to her first child at eighteen and moved almost a thousand miles away from her own family to continue her life with my father. She would give birth to four more children by age thirty-seven and pass away before reaching her forty-first birthday.
Behind all stories is your mothers story. My mother was a warm and loving person. My father and grandmother reassured me she treasured and enjoyed being a mother. She was the type of woman who sacrificed her own needs so that her children would never go with out. There was not a moment of my early childhood when I didn't feel completely loved and adored. My sisters and I shared a deep, loving connection with Mom. She was the parent we lavished with hugs and kisses. She was the one we told our stories and secrets. She was the one whose attention we fought over and who's approval we deeply desired.

Behind all stories is your mothers story. When a child loses their mother at an early age we tend to pity them or make them feel like they will always be psychologically scarred. Many children, adolescents and teenagers who lose a parent early in life will develop severe depression or begin to abuse drugs and alcohol to deal with their pain. There is an emptiness, a void that needs to be filled. Every human being reacts differently to grief. Losing a parent at any age is devastating and you will never "get over it".  There are many of us who lost a parent early who became stronger and more resilient. Granted, we sacrificed our childhoods and battled many dark days to see light again. We could have easily been drawn in the opposite direction bringing pain and suffering upon ourselves and others. Today my sisters are amazing mothers who have raised wonderful children. My sisters are beautiful and strong individuals. Some how we all remained kind, compassionate and loving in the face of profound adversity. Sadly, after the passing of my father and grandmother my brothers may never fully understand the depth of our mothers love for them. They have missed or never shared the same memories as their sisters. My brothers were only five and three when she was over powered by cancer. They need to hear and read how fiercely she fought to stay alive for them,  for us all. She was in constant pain during the last years of her life but she was a real fighter. She celebrated birthdays, holidays, listened to our petty arguments, reviewed our homework and watched her children play never revealing her true agony. She was more brave and heroic than a soldier on a battlefield. That is strength. That is courage. It is now up to my sisters and me to sustain her legacy in their hearts.

Behind all stories is your mothers story. Love is the strongest force in the universe. Show your gratitude. Love in return. Love is greater and more powerful than having children, a spouse or a lover. Love your life. Be who you are and not what other people want you to be. My Mom never had the opportunity to experience so many things we take for granted.  My choice to be child free and single was influenced by my Mom but not in the negative way people imagine.  Appreciate your life. Savor every minute. Savor those beautiful magical moments that define a universal connection; a butterfly lands in your hands, the sun peeks out behind the clouds to shine on your face and she is with you. Unexpectedly, you see her photo as a beautiful memory flashes before your eyes, you hear her favorite song, inhale the scent of  her cologne  or read a  meaningful poem or book passage and think to yourself, " Thank you, Mom.  I love you too. I love you"

Happy Mother's Day to Les and, Laurie. Love you. Happy Mother's Day to Lorraine. Happy Mother's Day to all mother's.

"Tell me and I forget. Teach me and I remember. Involve me and I learn."

 "Education is not the filling of a pail but the lighting of a fire." --William Butler Yeats

        Monday May 6th to-Friday May 10th is Teacher Appreciate Week. If you hold or treasure memories of a beloved educator in your life send them a card, email or give them a call to tell them how much they have inspired you. One of my favorite teachers also happens to be my sister! Teachers dedicate their time and energy to instruct, motivate and encourage. They spend hours leading in the classroom and assisting students followed by even more hours after school grading, tutoring and attending meetings. Have you considered being a teacher? Have you ever observed a classroom or volunteered? If you are considering a career in education the best way to ensure you are right for the job is to spend time on the front lines. Teaching is one of the most difficult occupations in the world.  Most teachers sacrifice their heart and soul to guide children and adults towards a genuine love of learning. Usually, this sacrifice comes with unlimited bureaucracy and minimal monetary reward. There are those teachers who truly love what they do but are underpaid and unappreciated. If you were fortunate enough to have an outstanding teacher you will  always remember them..
     One of the most inspiring professors I have ever known was discovered while attending college. During the first week of class he shared a beautiful poetic tribute to his rambunctious terrier, Nipper. His slide show of  artistically edgy black and white photographs captured this sweet little dog frolicking on a beach, playing tag with the rolling waves. There was not one student or colleague of  Dr. McMahon's who didn't love him. He inspired his students to observe, think deeply and absorb life. He encouraged me to submit poetry and essays to our college literary magazine and write articles for the newspaper. He gave me confidence in my ability as a writer while I was feeling like a failure for not passing Algebra II. Thank you so much Dr.M. for believing and encouraging my strengths and not focusing on my weaknesses.
     Take a few moments to thank a teacher this week. Better yet, thank them whenever you can. Let them know how their influence may have changed your life forever.

" half the story has never been told..."

“Without freedom of speech there is no modern world, just a barbaric one.”
― Ai Weiwei

   He is accused of mocking Egyptian authorities and was forced to go to jail for "insulting the president." Do you think that's a joke? Sadly, it's a true story. Should it be a criminal offense to parody or express yourself with humor?  Known as the "Egyptian Jon Stewart," Bassem Youssef hosts a weekly satire program, al-Bernameg, modeled after The Daily Show and watched by more than thirty million Egyptians. He is one of nearly thirty Egyptian citizens alarmingly swept up in a controversial new government witch hunt on media freedom. One of those recently persecuted is video blogger Ahmed Anwar, who went to trial May 4. "It's ironic that May 3 is World Press Freedom Day and I'm facing trial the next day just for posting a video," Anwar told an Amnesty International correspondent
Bassem and Anwar's arrest sent a disturbingly clear message to critics- Criticize the government and you could be next.
"You are doing what I take for granted all the time," Jon Stewart told fellow satirist Bassem in a Daily Show interview, "And forget sometimes."

 Many U.S citizens forget every single day that we have the freedom to express, write, say and post what we truly feel. We need to recognize and defend the contributions of the world's journalists, reporters, bloggers and writers, who risk harassment, detention, physical abuse and even death to speak and write their views..

Bassem Youssef  stated that while his case has attracted international attention, there are so many other people caught up in this disturbing crackdown. Support free expression where ever and when ever you can. Even though many of us do, we certainly cannot take freedom of speech for granted.

Below is a link to a news story regarding peaceful protest, social media, bloggers and human rights activism.  "Forbidden Voices" a documentary film released in 2012 and directed by Barbara Miller drew worldwide  attention of the implications of repressing freedom of speech.



http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_bn2#/video/world/2013/05/03/pkg-shubert-forbidden-voices.cnn

"So what have YOU done today?...."

"Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

      The link below is to a very inspiring interview from Jon Stewart and the Daily Show featuring Eric Greitens. Although this was not mentioned in the interview, Eric Greitens was most recently named one of TIME Magazine's 100 Most Influential People in the World. Among all of his other achievements such as serving as a Navy SEAL, selected as a Rhodes Scholar and earning a PHD from Oxford University, he is the founder and CEO of The Mission Continues. He is also the author of three books, Strength and Compassion, The Heart and the Fist: The Education of a Humanitarian the Making of a Navy SEAL and The Warrior's Heart. Eric Greitens is the kind of  person who inspires  us to examine our own lives and wonder,  "How do I make a difference?" or "What will I do to make the world a better place?" 

www.thedailyshow.com/watch/thu-may-2-2013/eric-greitens

" going the distance..."

"Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy." Norman Vincent Peale 

      Here is a question I never tire of asking or listening to the answer,  "What songs pump you up?" What track, CD or download gets you amped? What piece of music motivates and inspires you? As a music lover who appreciates every genre, I understand all of us have at least one song, CD or album we  consider a "life altering theme" track. We use music or lyrics as motivation for work or a work out,  getting out of bed or getting on with life. What song keeps you running an extra mile when you really want to go home, watch the Daily Show and eat a box of Cheddar Jack Cheez-Its?  According to online journal Cave Magazine's 2012 fan survey one of the most motivational songs of all time is "Faint" by Linkin Park. Although I do agree "Faint" can get the adrenaline flowing, my favorite "get attitude" go to Linkin Park track has always been "When They Come for Me".  It's like punching someone right in the face with music. I dare anyone to stand still or feel less than bad ass when you take it in."  I'm not a robot. I'm not a monkey and I will not dance even if the beats funky."  "When They Come For Me" is not really the most respectful, happy, positive song when calm, gentle and optimistic is generally my personality. Essentially, the lyrics tell people to "kiss your ass" which gives you an edge when you need self motivation for a tough work out. Admittedly, I always wind up laughing at myself singing  "try to catch up Motherfuckers'.... It does get your blood pumping.  "Going the Distance" from the movie soundtrack "Rocky" is powerful too.  Please, have a listen......

       Others I've polled prefer "Click, Click Boom" by Saliva or "Let the Bodies Hit the Floor" by Drowning Pool.  "Thunderstruck" by AC/DC or "Run This Town" by Jay-Z were mentioned. There are a few who chose the more traditional "Don't Stop Believing" by Journey or "Eye of the Tiger' by Survivor.  Those surveyed mentioned everything from classical Wagner, "Flight of the Valkyries" to "Uprising" by Muse. Whatever tunes are on your "pumped up" play list, keep moving. Keep believing in yourself. There will be times  in your life when you are your only cheering section.

"I feel the need, the need for speed...."

“I didn't know I had it in me. There's more to all of us than we realize. Life is so much bigger, grander, higher, and wider than we allow ourselves to think. We're capable of so much more than we allow ourselves to believe.”
― Queen Latifah, Put on Your Crown: Life-Changing Moments on the Path to Queendom

       

      Stephen Colbert recently interviewed motor racing super woman and current NASCAR driver, 

Danica Patrick on the Colbert Report. Those unfamiliar with racing are probably unaware that before Danica began competing in the Nationwide and Sprint Cup series she started her career in open-wheel racing. In addition to being a  highly competitive driver, model and advertising spokesperson, she is the most successful woman in the history of American open-wheel racing and the only woman to win a race. She received the "Colbert Bump" honor which automatically increases a guests rise in popularity. (But it could be the attention grabbing bikini clad Go Daddy! ads as well.)

     The world of auto racing unlike most previously male- dominated sports,  is encouraging  female participation. Despite misconceptions or stereotypes about NASCAR and it's following, auto racing continues progress, making tremendous strides for female athletes who compete with men as equals.

Quick Quiz. Name another professional sport that men and women compete equally?  This is just one of the reasons being a racing fan makes me proud, although driver of the Roush Fenway " 99" car, charismatic Carl Edwards is my favorite driver. He will be competing in Richmond, VA this weekend.(Sorry, Bri. Kasey "Sugar" Kahne will have to settle for second.)Besides, Danica, here are a few other female drivers you may know or recognize:

    * Jennifer Jo Cobb is a NASCAR driver running in the Nationwide and Camping World Truck series. She has also run a limited schedule in ARCA or the Automobile Racing Club of America and has competed in Nationwide Series events.

    * Amber Cope and her twin sister Angela compete in Late Models and  ARCA races  and run a limited series of races in NASCAR. Amber has competed in the  Camping World Truck Series and the Nationwide ranks.

      *Simona De Silvestro made her IZOD IndyCar Series debut in 2010, finishing 19th in her first season. A native of Switzerland, she placed third in the Atlantic Championship in 2009, earning four wins and nine podium finishes in 12 starts. In addition, she led a series-best 172 laps. De Silvestro won the rookie honor at the 2010 Indianapolis 500.

      Born into a legendary racing family, Chrissy Wallace's  father Mike and her uncles Rusty and Kenny all are accomplished NASCAR drivers. She competed in both NASCAR and ARCA in 2010, plus the Camping World Truck Series and Nationwide Series. She became the first woman to race against her father in NASCAR when both competed in the Nationwide series race at Talladega. Wallace earned a place in history in 2011, becoming the first female to win an ASA Late Model track championship, which she did at Lebanon I-44 Speedway, and also the first female regional champion when she took the ASA West Region title.

There really is more to look forward to in the world of racing for women. If you have a daughter, niece or know of any young girls who are interested in kicking tires and lighting fires, encourage them to compete and continue to pave the way.

“I’d like to say I’m ready to kick ass and show the guys how it’s done. But I’m not here to prove anything about being a woman. I’m here to drive a race car and try to win a race.”- Lyn St. James (former Indy driver)

“It is often in the darkest skies that we see the brightest stars."

 “The world is indeed full of peril and in it there are many dark places.
But still there is much that is fair. And though in all lands, love is now
mingled with grief, it still grows, perhaps, the greater.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings

      Author Dean Koontz wrote in his beautiful moving tribute to his retired service golden retriever Trixie, A Big Little Life: A Memoir of a Joyful Dog, " ...we cherish dogs because their unblemished souls make us wish - consciously or unconsciously - that we were as innocent as they are, and make us yearn for a place where innocence is universal and where the meanness, the betrayals, and the cruelties of this world are unknown.”  Yet humanity has shown and continues to show its cruelty to dogs and other animals. Human beings over breed puppies then euthanize them for population control,  viciously fight dogs to their death, lock them in cages without food and water or leave them outside in the elements to starve. Human beings abuse dogs just as much as we abuse each other.  Despite all of our cruelty, dogs are loving, loyal and deservedly crowned "man's best friend". They show us their resilience. What painful and triumphant stories would dogs reveal if they could pen their own memoirs for the world to read?
Human beings are incredibly egotistical and selfish yet also unbelievably selfless and noble. Most of us have probably spent the last week reading and analysing data from countless news stories. We need to always be aware of what we are capable of building and destroying. We look to one another and embrace our commonality to heal.
     This blog entry was intended  to elicit a hidden smile. Although we may find it difficult to smile at the moment. Just like raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens, dogs and many humans are a few of my favorite things.(... plus birthday cake. Happy birthday to my brother-in-law, Father of the Year, Chuck.) What could be more welcoming than a little dose of therapy dog?   Dogs help us heal as "furry counselors" offering unconditional love. They keep our minds in the moment and take away our preoccupation of pain, emotional or physical.   Their "unblemished souls" allow us rare glimpses of the beauty, courage and selflessness we aspire , release some of the negativity we hold and help us maintain our grasp on hope. Below are just a few examples of what love can do. If you click on the NBC link it will take you to a story about the Comfort Brigade LLC K-9's. The video clip of Carly the Golden Retriever therapist was discovered online.  The video powerfully demonstrates why we must protect and advocate for dogs and other animals like Carly. This is powerful healing.

 Link to NBC news story:  http://www.nbcnews.com/video/nightly-news/51576569#51576569

Dawww Factor: 110%

"the good outnumber you, and we always will."

“Hearts rebuilt from hope resurrect dreams killed by hate.”
― Aberjhani, The River of Winged Dreams

Patton Oswalt posted this message to his Facebook page yesterday and it instantly went viral. With his permission, it was reprinted in part or in  full  or quoted by several online news organizations. Oswalt is a forty- four year old native Virginian, professional writer, actor and observational humorist. If you question why the reflections of a comedian would profoundly resonate with so many people read for yourself.

"Boston. Fucking horrible.
I remember, when 9/11 went down, my reaction was, "Well, I've had it with humanity."
But I was wrong. I don't know what's going to be revealed to be behind all of this mayhem -- one human insect or a poisonous mass of broken sociopaths.

But here's what I DO know. If it's one person or a HUNDRED people, that number is not even a fraction of a fraction of a fraction of a percent of the population on this planet. You watch the videos of the carnage and there are people running TOWARDS the destruction to help out. (Thanks FAKE Gallery founder and owner Paul Kozlowski for pointing this out to me). This is a giant planet and we're lucky to live on it but there are prices and penalties incurred for the daily miracle of existence. One of them is, every once in a while, the wiring of a tiny sliver of the species gets snarled and they're pointed towards darkness.

But the vast majority stands against that darkness and, like white blood cells attacking a virus, they dilute and weaken and eventually wash away the evildoers and, more importantly, the damage they wreak. This is beyond religion or creed or nation. We would not be here if humanity were inherently evil. We'd have eaten ourselves alive long ago.

So when you spot violence, or bigotry, or intolerance or fear or just garden-variety misogyny, hatred or ignorance, just look it in the eye and think, "The good outnumber you, and we always will."

"but it is the journey that matters in the end..."

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them.”

                                                                   ― Henry David Thoreau, Walden 

You have an amazing story. The simple fact that you are alive is remarkable.  Right now, you are leading a once in a life time event on this planet no other person will ever experience. Despite what you feel is mundane or ordinary only you have lived your moments of joy, passion, anguish and accomplishment. There is a broad spectrum of goals many human beings share such as happiness, peace, love, success, to have a family, marriage. Then there are those goals that we achieve almost silently without celebration or acknowledgement from outside ourselves. How many of us have spent an entire day completing a list of tasks, errands or personal goals only to have someone sarcastically say. " So what exactly DID YOU DO ALL DAY?"  Setting and meeting small goals and accomplishments is something we all do on a daily basis with little touting or fanfare. Below is a brief video from Derek Sivers who is best known as the founder of CD Baby.  Sivers has been a professional musician since 1987, he started CD Baby by accident in 1998 when he was selling his own CD on his website, and friends asked if he could sell theirs, too. CD Baby was the largest seller of independent music on the web, with over $100M in sales for over 150,000 musician clients.

     In 2008, Sivers sold CD Baby to focus on his new ventures to benefit musicians, including his new company, MuckWork, where teams of efficient assistants help musicians do their "uncreative dirty work." Here in this brief and thought provoking TED TALK,  Sivers examines  the pros and con's of sharing certain goals with others. What do you think? Do you find sharing your goals to be helpful or more of a hindrance?

     Each step you take to achieve your personal goals is never lost even if you have given up a thousand times. Keep going. Keep trying, even if it means guarding your ideals and pursuits from skeptics or cynics. You may keep some of your motivations and achievements quiet because ultimately this is your journey. This is not being selfish. There is no one you ask permission to be who you are. Your personal battles and achievements have created YOU.

"This is the oldest you've ever been...."

" Birthdays are good for you. Statistics show that the people who have the most live the
longest."

My brother Dave turns another year older and wiser on Saturday, April 13th. This evening he said his adorable puppy Parker excitedly greeted him at the door with a little "present". Thankfully, his wife has other gift surprises in store to help him celebrate all weekend.  May I present the Happy Birthday, Dave Interview:



So, Dave. How does it feel to be an old man?
I don't feel any different or even think about it.

 Now that you are an old man what words of wisdom would you like to share with the Millennials?
What's a millennial? Oh, I guess I would say treat others as you would like to be treated. That's a good one.

What is your all time favorite cake or cupcake flavor?
Chocolate of course.

Dustin (our brother) has a distinct memory of the best cake he ever ate in his life. He can tell you the story and you become captivated. When you guys were little there was a notorious "Superman cake" with cream frosting that Lorraine (our step-mother) either bought or made. What is your favorite birthday memory?

Yeah, I think I was nine or ten and there was this super hero cake. I just remember it being really nice outside and we had our friends from the neighborhood over. It could have been the same cake, man. My memory is not so good.
Yeah, that's what happens to old people, Dave. (he hasn't even reached forty yet)


Did you have a birthday clown?
Hell, no.

What would you like for your birthday this year?
A  new Cadillac CTS V
You know you're not going to get one, right?
( disappointingly shrugs)

Did anyone at work wish you a Happy Birthday?
Yes. There are about three other guys on the crew that have birthdays this week too.

So you are nothing special.
Whatever.

We have a very large loving family. Who is your favorite sibling?
I'm going to have to say "you" , right?
That is the correct answer.

Do you have any other words of wisdom?
Nope.
Well, thank you. Good talk, Bro.  Love you and Happy Birthday!
Thanks man. Love you too. 

 And here is a photo of the creepy clown our parents never hired for your birthday party!(because they loved us.)

"a butterfly floats on the breeze of a sun lit day..."

“I think that my job is to observe people and the world, and not to judge them. I always hope to position myself away from so-called conclusions. I would like to leave everything wide open to all the possibilities in the world.”
― Haruki Murakami

     This past weekend I had the opportunity to visit Washington DC during peak cherry blossom season. It was a brief but highly engaging eight hour adventure from riding the Metro to walking the National Mall.                                On a gorgeous sunny
 afternoon thousands of locals and tourists from around the world gathered to collect memories and marvel at the incredible monuments. It's easy to think of DC  in negative terms, scoffing at self serving politicians and the contrived arrogance of some educators and business people. DC is notoriously expensive with a high crime rate and ridiculous traffic. However, our nation chronicles it's rich  historic secrets at it's core. The museums, beautiful architecture, tree lined avenues and cultural appeal draws visitors from every state and country.
 Photographers huddled families together for keepsake poses along the steps to the posthumous Lincoln Memorial. Mothers and fathers fought back tears as they solemnly read names from the emotionally stirring Vietnam Veterans Memorial to their curious children. My sister-in-law, her father, my brother and me wore down our heels scurrying as we absorbed the sights, sounds and smells that swirled around us like Whirling Dervishes. The most captivating moments of any excursion is observing human nature. No matter how rude, obnoxious, frustrating or stubborn people may appear they are still endlessly fascinating. No matter how busily we rush through life their are lessons we learn only from each other. Slowly drinking from the cup of humanity is a full days journey always leaving an unquenchable thirst.

“To acquire knowledge, one must study;
but to acquire wisdom, one must observe.”
―    Marilyn Vos Savant

"Hope is a waking dream..."

        “A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is reality.”
― John Lennon

   Want to visit Jon Stewart and John Oliver on the set of  The Daily Show in New York City? Would you like to explore the set of HBO's the Newsroom or meet television journalist George Stephanopolous? How would you like to play a serious game of paintball with real Navy SEALS? Yes, please!! Omaze offers the chance to win once-in-a-lifetime experiences that also support a great cause.  Check out their website http://www.omaze.com/ You can support any of the organizations listed such as  The Mission Continues. Founder and CEO, Eric Greitens is the author of the inspirational memoir " The Heart and the Fist: The Education of a Humanitarian. The Making of a Navy SEAL". His incredible book lead to my discovery of the Mission Continues a few years ago. Representing all four branches of the military; Army, Navy, Air Force and Marines, my grandfather, father, uncle and three brothers proudly served our country. My brother Steve will officially retire from the Navy this year. Many friends and coworkers have served as well. The sacrifice and selfless actions  of our military hero's allow US citizens to maintain the freedoms we enjoy today. We must never take our freedom for granted. The Mission Continues awards community service fellowships to post-9/11 veterans, empowering them to transform their own lives by serving others and  their own communities. Mission Continues Fellows serve six months at local nonprofit organizations to address key educational, environmental or social issues. Each Fellow works to achieve a post-fellowship goal of full time employment and/or pursuit of higher education, while maintaining a permanent role of public service.  It costs $100 to provide a post-9/11 veteran with the mission supplies needed for an entire fellowship. Every dollar you donate helps our veterans find a renewed sense of purpose for their skills and provide critical support for communities in need. You can support a Mission Continues fellow and have a chance to live out your own dream like meeting Jon Stewart or playing Battleship with Admiral Mullen by donating right now.
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